What is agender?
AGENDER denotes a person who may feel:
GenderlessGender-neutralVoid of genderBeyond the binaryUngenderable
Agender people can be of any orientation. Yes, even gay, lesbian, bi, pan, and/or asexual.
Some agender people also consider themselves nonbinary (not strictly a man or woman) and/or transgender (not their birth-assigned gender).
These definitions overlap, but are not interchangeable. Labels are cumulative, not mutually exclusive.
Trans, agender, and/or nonbinary people might experience gender dysphoria, but it's not required.
Agender people can also:
Go by any pronouns they want.Seek social or legal name and gender marker changes.Dress in any way they want.Take hormones or undergo any of the many surgery options for medical transition, or opt-out completely.Become parents, if they choose to.
📚 More information you may like:
Is Gender Dysphoria Required?Advice for Questioning PeopleAdvice for Trans Youth (13+)Social vs Legal Name ChangeNeutrois.comAgender - LGBTA WikiAgender - Gender WikiAgender - Nonbinary wikiGender-Neutral Parent TitlesGender-neutral titles - Nonbinary wikiHormones Simply ExplainedI Think My Child Might Be Trans or NonbinaryNonbinary Support blogXenogenders Explained - Nonbinary wiki
✏️ After 'gender', all terms are sorted alphabetically.
🔗 Click on a term to copy the link to its definition.
✅ Labels are additive, not mutually-exclusive.
✅ Labels are tools for self-expression, not rigid rules you must follow.
✅ Human sexuality predates language. Bisexual was coined in English in 1892, this doesn't mean bisexuality was created in 1892.
GENDER. noun. A self-concept, especially in regards to cultural categories like woman or man and their social associations, and one's relationship to their sex. Expressed socially through chosen clothing, hairstyles, behavior, speech, or titles/pronouns.
Originally only a grammar term for noun classes (pronoun categories) until the mid 1900s.
Sometimes called a gender identity, but this is not recommended. Anyone with a gender label logically also has a 'gender identity'.
AGENDER. adjective. Denotes a person who is genderless or not any conventional gender. First documented use was in 2000, in an online forum describing the Christian god as genderless: ("amorphous, agender").
BIGENDER. adjective. Denotes a person who is two or more genders at once, e.g., they may be a man and a woman at the same time. Gained popularity as a gender label in the 1970s.
BISEXUAL. adjective. Denotes a person attracted to two or more genders. Or, to genders similar and different to their own. First used to describe sexual orientation in 1892.
CISGENDER. adjective. Denotes a person who is the gender they were assigned. Coined in 1991.
GENDER DYSPHORIA. noun. Distress caused by inability to live comfortably, usually because of an externally-enforced, incorrect gender assignment. Coined in 1973.
GENDERFLUID. adjective. Denotes a person who experiences their gender as flexible or constantly changing. Gained popularity as a gender label in the 1980s.
INTERSEX. adjective. Denotes a person medically considered to have ambiguous sex characteristics at birth or a related lifelong condition. Coined in English in 1917.
NONBINARY (sometimes non-binary). adjective. Denotes a person who is not strictly a man or a woman. They may be partially one, both, neither, or something outside the binary.
PANSEXUAL. adjective. Denotes a person attracted to all genders or to people regardless of gender. Read about the long history of the word 'pansexual' here.
QUEER. adjective. Denotes a non-straight and/or non-cisgender person. Intentionally vague term to include people still questioning, closeted, or who just love being mysterious.
SEX. noun. Categories such as male and female which are generally based on external reproductive anatomy. May also be informed by various chromosomes, internal organs, hormones, and other physical characteristics.
Usually assigned to babies at birth based on appearance to predict physical development.
TRANSGENDER. adjective. Denotes a person who is not the gender they were assigned. Coined in English in 1965.
If you think you’re any of these things, it’s free.
I think I'm agender but I'm not sure. Is it okay to say I am?
Yes! Test it out, if you want. One way is to try writing short self-descriptions in a phone or computer notepad. Re-read them and see how they make you feel. Tell a friend, tell everyone, or keep it in your journals - there is no wrong way to figure things out.
Can I be agender if I dress (however)?
Can I be agender if I don't use they/them pronouns?
How can an agender person also be gay/lesbian/trans/etc?
BUT REALLY how can someone be agender AND (gay/lesbian/trans/etc.)!!!?? Isn't that a contradiction?
It might sound confusing at first - how can someone have no gender and "be attracted to the same gender"? How can someone transition to "no gender"?
The key is to stop seeing these adjectives as restrictive, mutually-exclusive categories. Labels are additive descriptors that people add to their basket to help shape and express themselves.
For example, transgender means being not your assigned gender. Most trans people in popular media are shown as having clear gender goals, usually a binary gender, man or woman. But in real life, trans people don't have to transition 'to a gender'. It still just means 'not your assigned gender'.
So, yes, transgender people can be genderless and/or agender.
It's also not a contradiction to be agender and gay. Or nonbinary and gay, etc.
Anyone who is gay, even a non-trans person, can feel disconnected from their assigned gender and may 'seem trans' as part of their gender-non-conforming expression. They're still gay. It's not a contradiction, and the same applies to bi and pan people, etc.
Human variation is infinite.
Across languages and continents, there have always been neopronouns, she/her gay men, he/him lesbians, and people of all genders who change names, change wardrobes, or even take hormones to feel more comfortable in their bodies. It's all part of human expression.
The point is, there are no gender labels you have to use. Only you get to decide who you are. And you don't ever have to explain.
Why not just be nonbinary?
Many agender people do also consider themselves nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people would consider themselves agender. Nonbinary is usually seen as the larger umbrella term which encompasses agender. But you don't have to adopt any labels that you don't want to.
Who can be agender?
Anyone, if it feels right, no matter what age you are, what you were assigned at birth, or how many times you’ve changed labels in the past.
Wishing you could somehow 'really be' agender / nonbinary / transgender is a sign you might be.
You're not 'taking space' away from other people, even if you change your mind later.
It's okay to stay questioning, too. No label, no problem.
Thanks for reading! If you think you’re agender, it’s free and doesn’t require anyone’s permission.
No website can replace an actual doctor or lawyer. Please research carefully!
🩺 MEDICAL RESOURCES:
NHS - What is Gender Dysphoria?How to Get Hormones as a MinorShould I Order Hormones Online?What are Hormone Blockers?'Feminizing' Hormones Explained'Masculinizing' Hormones ExplainedGeneral Hormones InfoPlanned Parenthood - Trans HealthcareFind an EndocrinologistHudson's Testosterone Therapy Guide'Trans-masculine' Surgeries'Trans-feminine' Surgeries
⚖️ LEGAL RESOURCES:
Name & Gender Change (all US States)Sample Doctor's Letter for Gender Marker Change (link to file)US Passport Gender Change InfoTransequality.org - List of Legal, Medical, and Social ResourcesName Changes and Other Legal ResourcesThe Trevor Project - International Resources
No website can replace an actual doctor or lawyer. Please research carefully!
Why make so many flags?
Flags give us symbols and palettes to express ourselves with. Anyone can create a flag, and many of the most popular flags, some shown below, were created within the last twenty-five years.
This website's creator has also contributed a few alternate agender flag designs, which are listed at the end. :)
You are free to recreate, modify, disregard, or repost any of these flags, with no credit required.
Get a Twibbon (colored ribbon) around your Twitter or Fb profile pic featuring the four-stripe agender flag.
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