What is agender?
Agender denotes a person who may feel:
Some agender people also consider themselves nonbinary (not strictly a man or woman) and/or transgender (not their birth-assigned gender).
These definitions overlap, but are not interchangeable. Labels are cumulative, not mutually exclusive. Labels are completely optional.
Trans, agender, and/or nonbinary people might experience gender dysphoria, but it's not required.
Agender people can also:
Go by any pronouns they choose.Seek social or legal name and gender marker changes.Dress in any way they choose.Take hormones or undergo any of the many surgery options for medical transition, or opt-out completely.Become parents, if they choose to.
📚 More information you may like:
Is Gender Dysphoria Required?Advice for Questioning PeopleAdvice for Trans Youth (13+)Social vs Legal Name ChangeNeutrois.comAgender - LGBTA WikiAgender - Gender WikiAgender - Nonbinary wikiGender-Neutral Parent TitlesGender-neutral titles - Nonbinary wikiHormones Simply ExplainedI Think My Child Might Be Trans or NonbinaryNonbinary Support blogXenogenders Explained - Nonbinary wiki
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✅ Labels are cumulative, not mutually-exclusive.
✅ Definitions are not written in stone and may change over time with colloquial usage, as they always have.
✅ Labels are tools for self-expression, not rigid rules you must follow.
AGENDER. adjective. Someone who is genderless or not any assignable gender. First documented use was in 2000, in an online forum describing the Christian god as "amorphous, agender". See the flag here.
AROMANTIC. adjective. Someone with little or no romantic attraction.
ASEXUAL. adjective. Someone with little or no sexual attraction.
GENDER. noun. 1. A culturally-defined category to express a simplification of the human sex spectrum, e.g. 'man' and 'woman' of the male/female sex binary. Many cultures recognize more than two genders and/or sexes.
2. A person's relationship to their sex and its culturally-expected identity, and their expression of that identity.
Gender can be expressed through anything such as self-description, names, clothes, hair, behavior, titles/pronouns, physique, or artwork. Sometimes called a gender identity, but this is redundant and not recommended.
Until the mid 1900s 'gender' was only a grammar term for noun classes (he/she/they/it).
GENDER DYSPHORIA. noun. Distress caused by inability to live comfortably, usually because of an externally-enforced, incorrect gender assignment. Coined in 1973.
NONBINARY (sometimes non-binary). adjective. Someone who is not strictly a man or a woman. They may be partially one, both, neither, or something outside the binary. See the flag here. See also: Genderqueer.
PANSEXUAL. adjective. Someone attracted to all genders or to people regardless of gender. Read about the long history of the word 'pansexual' here. See the flag here.
SEX. noun. Categories to simplify the spectrum of human reproductive anatomy, usually either male or female, to predict a baby's physical and social development.
Usually based on external reproductive anatomy at birth, it can also be informed by chromosomes, internal organs, gonads, hormones, and other physical characteristics throughout someone's life. Some people have natural combinations of these traits that are considered intersex.
Social categories based on cultural expectations associated with sexes are known as genders.
STRAIGHT. adjective. Someone attracted to others of a different gender, often exclusively.
TRANSGENDER. adjective. Someone who is not the gender they were assigned, or not the gender that would be culturally expected from their birth-assigned sex. Coined in English in 1965. See the flag here.
X-GENDER. adjective or noun. English approximation of x-jendā, a Japanese word for a gender that is neither male nor female, or, depending on the context, both. Most likely originated in Kansai as shown in independent queer (kuia) publications and films from the late 1990s. Read more here.
I think I'm agender but I'm not sure. Is it okay to say I am?
Yes! Test it out, if you want. One way is to try writing short self-descriptions in a phone or computer notepad. Re-read them and see how they make you feel. Tell a friend, tell everyone, or keep it in your journals - there is no wrong way to figure things out.
Can I be agender if I dress (however)?
Can I be agender even if I don't 'change' or transition?
Can I be agender if I don't use they/them pronouns?
How can an agender person also be gay/lesbian/trans/etc?
BUT REALLY how can someone be agender AND (gay/lesbian/trans/etc.)!!!?? Isn't that a contradiction?
It might sound confusing at first - how can someone have no gender and "be attracted to the same gender"? How can someone transition to "no gender"?
The key is to stop seeing these adjectives as restrictive, mutually-exclusive categories. Labels are additive descriptors that people add to their basket to help shape and express themselves.
For example, transgender means being not your assigned gender. Most trans people in popular media are shown as having clear gender goals, usually a binary gender, man or woman. But in real life, trans people don't have to transition 'to a gender'. It still just means 'not your assigned gender'.
So, yes, transgender people can be genderless and/or agender.
It's also not a contradiction to be agender and gay. Or nonbinary and gay, etc.
Anyone, even a non-trans person, can feel disconnected from their assigned gender and may 'seem trans' as part of their gender-non-conforming expression. They're still cis if they say they are. It's not a contradiction, and the same applies to bi and pan people, etc.
Human variation is infinite.
Across languages and continents, there have always been neopronouns, she/her gay men, he/him lesbians, and people of all genders who change names, change wardrobes, or take hormones to feel more comfortable in their bodies. It's all part of human expression.
The point is, there are no gender labels you have to use. Only you get to decide who you are. And you don't ever have to explain.
Why not just be nonbinary?
Many agender people do also consider themselves nonbinary, but not all nonbinary people would consider themselves agender. Nonbinary is usually seen as the larger umbrella term which encompasses agender. But you don't have to adopt any labels that you don't want to.
Who can be agender?
Anyone, if it feels right, no matter what age you are, what you were assigned at birth, or how many times you’ve changed labels in the past.
Wishing you could somehow 'really be' agender / nonbinary / transgender is a sign you might be.
You're not 'taking space' away from other people, even if you change your mind later.
It's okay to stay questioning, too. No label, no problem.
Thanks for reading! If you think you’re agender, it’s free and doesn’t require anyone’s permission.
No website can replace an actual doctor or lawyer. Please research carefully!
🩺 MEDICAL RESOURCES:
NHS - What is Gender Dysphoria?How to Get Hormones as a MinorShould I Order Hormones Online?What are Hormone Blockers?'Feminizing' Hormones Explained'Masculinizing' Hormones ExplainedGeneral Hormones InfoPlanned Parenthood - Trans HealthcareFind an EndocrinologistHudson's Testosterone Therapy Guide'Trans-masculine' Surgeries'Trans-feminine' Surgeries
⚖️ LEGAL RESOURCES:
Name & Gender Change (all US States)Sample Doctor's Letter for Gender Marker Change (link to file)US Passport Gender Change InfoTransequality.org - List of Legal, Medical, and Social ResourcesName Changes and Other Legal ResourcesThe Trevor Project - International Resources
No website can replace an actual doctor or lawyer. Please research carefully!
Why make so many flags?
Flags give us symbols and palettes to express ourselves with. Anyone can create a flag, but some have become iconic, such as Monica Helms's 1999 transgender flag and Gilbert Baker's 1979 rainbow flag which are both now Unicode-supported emoji: 🏳️⚧️ and 🏳️🌈.
You are free to recreate, modify, disregard, or repost any of these flags, with no credit required.
None of these flags are "official", they're just some of the most well-known.
Inclusive Pride flag by marketing firm Tierney for the city of Philadelphia, 2017.
Progress Pride flag by Daniel Quasar, 2018.
The following flags are in alphabetical order:
Working for genderless liberation
Genderless love, friendship, and community
Genderless joy and celebration
Genderless artwork and creativity
(merges with red-orange for four-stripe version)
Genderless diversity and individual expression
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Only you can decide what gender and orientation labels best fit you, if any. No rush, no rules.
Please see a real doctor for medical advice, and please see a real lawyer for legal advice.
Created November 2020.
Last updated June 2021.
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